Beauty is fleeting.
Sounds like a cliche but really this statement is true.
Beauty does not last forever.
How much more important it is then to know your value of who you are, what you can do, what you have done, the strength you have, your faith in God, your gifts and talents because this is what makes up more of you than just what you look like.
When beauty fades, and it will, your character will outlast and I have honestly seen a beauty so radiant from the inside that it magnificently shines outwardly regardless of a person’s looks or age.
I have a little story to share with you all about my struggles of chasing beauty and perfection.
I was a chubby little baby and toddler, cute but chubby. From a young age I realized I did not look the same as other children my age. At the age of 10 I was dieting and planning an exercise regime not to get healthy or because it was fun but because I needed to loose weight. As the years passed by my relationship with food deteriorated and I would hide what I ate often leading to overeating. By the time I was 16 years old I was 25 Kilos over weight. That is 55 pounds for all my American friends.
I had a personality that was larger than life, I loved people and always made them laugh so I could hide behind the pain of being the “fat” girl, dare I say it. I could never wear what everyone else could wear and going to the beach on summer vacations felt like torture. I could never understand why so many of my friends looked the way they did and all I had ever wished for was to be thin. I had based my self worth on what I looked like. Never feeling up to the mark because I never looked like what the world saw as beautiful. At the age of 18, after meeting the love of my life, high school sweetheart and my now amazing husband Neil, I managed to loose all the weight with healthy eating and exercise. I always say it was true love as Neil had met me at my largest and has loved me the same from that day. He truly saw me for who I was and not only for what I looked like. He saw my inner beauty.
I always think about the labels we give ourselves as we grow up for certain circumstances or trials we had faced through life. Although I had lost all the weight, I never saw myself as anything other than the girl who was overweight. I became obsessed about what I would eat, everyday. Thin was never thin enough and I could not understand why I could never look like the models in the magazines. It was a long road and I can tell you it stole many years of my happiness. The greatest sadness about trying to be perfect and to look perfect is that it distracts you from who you really are and what you are capable of.
Another cliche but beauty is only skin deep.
It has taken a long time and I still need God to work in my life everyday. What I have learned is we should not value our self worth from what we look like. How sad it would be if this was the case as we know we all face the inevitable fact that we will get older. Beauty cannot be held onto forever as hard as we may try and as time passes you do not see an outward beauty but an inner beauty that will outlast. Beauty from the heart is kindness, humility, character and courage. At the end of it all people might remember your beauty and lovely smile, your pretty eyes or radiant skin but the people you directly impact will always remember how you had helped mold, shape and change their lives. Live healthy, exercise, be good to your self and age gracefully but don’t place your value and self worth on your outward looks alone.
Look beyond the insecurities and the lies and see who you really are. You are so much more valuable than just a number on a scale or a dress size. More valuable than just a pretty face. You are a child of God and you are valuable and cherished in His eyes just the way you are. He sees your heart. You are a friend, a daughter, a mother, a sister, and you are a mentor. You are a business women, a homemaker, a wife and you are loyal. You are fierce and powerful, gifted and talented. You are made with a purpose and this is not simply to be beautiful on the outside but to radiate all the beauty that’s within.
Shine, and be who God called you to be. Live with purpose and know that you are deeply loved and valued just the way you are.
“Therefore we do not lose heart. Though outwardly we are wasting away, yet inwardly we are being renewed day by day.’
2 Corinthians 4:16
“Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised”.